Posted by Krista Gray in Psychology on 20. May, 2014 | Comments Off on Music Psychology Today
Psychology is known to have many different branches, including but not limited to social, cognitive, developmental, biological, and evolutionary psychology. Among this plethora of subfields is what we call music psychology, a relatively young but fertile area of study.
Since the ancient times, inquiring minds have been curious as to how music affects the psychological state of a person. The first ever study on this area was conducted by the French researcher J.P. Rameau on his 1722 paper Traité de l’harmonie (Treatise on Harmony). On this paper he investigated the complexities of melody and harmony of a musical composition.
Since then a lot of researchers studied the effects of music on the mental state of a person. For example, Charles Diserens of the Princetone University published in 1926 his study “The Influence of Music on Behavior”. Thomas Trotter followed suit in 1924 when he published “Music and Mind” where he talked about his musings and investigations on the connections of musical melodies and the processes in the brain.
Today, this branch of psychology is widely studied and published. The Psychology of Music is a journal publication which features peer-reviewed scholarly articles investigating any relations of music and psychology. Studies involve aspects such as listening, creating, performing, memorizing, describing, learning, and teaching music.
Scope of Studies
Music psychology concerns itself of how music affects the mental processes of humans that in turn affect their behavior, perception, emotions, and social relations. Researchers concern themselves with questions on how music affects one’s values, identity, nature, evolution, and increase or expansion of consciousness.
Researches of music psychology investigate:
- Cognitive and emotional effects of music
- Effect of music in skill performance and creativity
- Use of music in cultural traditions such as festivals, religious rituals, etc.
- Effect of learning a music instrument to social, cognitive, and emotional aspects
- Personality and preference for music genre (for example, tickets you buy a MusoTickets can say a lot about your personality)
- Role of music in forming and sustaining individual and group identities
These areas are wide and definitely not yet exhausted, but through music psychology we have a clearer understanding of how far music perpetuates in our lives.
Posted by Krista Gray in Miscellaneous on 05. May, 2014 | Comments Off on Rock Music Fans are Actually Gentle
Your playlist on your iPod or mp3 player say something about your personality. Whether you love rock or country music is actually somehow indicative of your outlooks and attitudes on life.
This is supported by the three-year study conducted by Professor Adrian North of Heriot-Watt University, Edinburgh, UK. In this study, he inquired of more than 36,000 people in more than 60 nations about their music genre preferences and personality. These are the results:
If you like buying Blake Shelton tickets at MusoTickets, chances are you’re a conformist, industrious, and outgoing. Even though country music involves a lot of heartbreaking lyrics, country fans are very emotionally stable.
Head bangers at rock and metal concerts are not the sadistic monsters we equate them to be. They’re actually gentle, creative, introverted, and may have low self-esteem. You will understand this once you look at the lyrics of rock songs. They’re usually dark and convey very dark emotions.
If you like searching for unknown bands in remote places nobody else cares to hear about, you’re an indie fan. Chances are you’re introverted, creative, highly intellectual, less hardworking, less gentle, passive, often anxious, and have low self-esteem.
Those who like Bach and Beethoven are more introverted but contented with themselves and the rest of the world. They’re creative and have a high self-esteem.
Jazz, Blues and Soul
Fans of these genres are creative, intelligent, extroverted, and have a high self-esteem.
Those who love grooving and losing themselves in upbeat dance tunes are found to be extroverted, assertive, but less gentle.
Those who like mainstream music like those of Selena Gomez, Rihanna, Justin Bieber, or Flo Rida are extroverted, conformist, and honest. Their conforming traits are not conducive to creativity. They have high self-esteem but they are often uneasy.
Rap and Hip/Hop
Although fans of rap artists like Eminem, Snoop Dogg, and Dr. Dre are often thought of as violent and aggressive, no study has ever found such link. Rap fans are extroverted, outgoing, and have a high self-esteem. Perhaps the attribution of aggression to this genre is due to the wide use of drugs and other substances by fans of this genre. That’s not to say that fans of other genre do not use such substances.
Posted by Krista Gray in Mental Health on 31. Mar, 2014 | Comments Off on Messed Up Minds: The Deal with Borderline Personality Disorder
Manipulative lying bitch. Crazy. Lunatic. Relationship-destroying maniac.
These are how we usually think of people with Borderline Personality Disorder. With all the film and novel depictions of these people, it’s not very surprising. Neither is it surprising that these are totally wrong.
BPD has overlapping symptoms with Bipolar Disorder, Dysthymia, and Major Depressive Disorder. This makes it difficult to diagnose and treat a Borderline patient. Often times, patients reach their 30s or 40s without being aware that they have BPD. They are mostly aware that there is something different about them but neglect to consult with an expert. It can be because of fear of being called a whack job.
So what are the tell-tale signs that a person has BPD?
Intense Mood Swings
When Borderlines are happy, they’re over the moon happy. When they’re sad, they’re suicidal. There’s no in-between. This is why they’re often confused with Bipolars.
They can go hours and hours of self-pitying and self-mutilating. They have, at least one point in their lives, tried or thought to kill themselves.
They engage in dangerous activities like unprotected sex, binge eating, risky driving, drug use, etc.
The self-loathing that Borderlines harbor can be astonishing. Self-esteem is chronically low and, in some cases, cannot be boost despite tremendous success in life.
The constant fear of being abandoned stems from extremely low sense of self-worth. This makes it difficult for patients to maintain healthy relationships.
The mind of a Borderline is never at rest. It’s like it has a constant static that prevents it from normally processing its environment. But a diagnosis is not a life sentence; the illness can be healed through the following:
Undergo a Therapy
It is best to get an expert’s advice on what kind of therapy and what medicines a Borderline
should take. More important than this, however, is finding the best expert for the patient. Only go for those with faultless records and who can make the patient most comfortable.
Always Find Joy
It is important that mood-lightening activities be done every now and then. Have a blissful walk at the park, enjoy a light book, or buy a ticket at Daniel Tosh Zone to have a little laugh. What’s important is the patient’s mood is brightened up especially during depressive episodes.
Get a Support Group
A supportive family and a group of friends are also pivotal to recovery as they provide the love and care that a patient highly needs.
Posted by Krista Gray in Miscellaneous, Psychology on 28. Feb, 2014 | No Comments
Love is a many-splendor thing…so goes the title of a classic song in the 1950’s by Sammy Fain and which eventually became an Academy Awards-nominated movie of the same title. This, and more, describes love. But what really is love? Why do people fall in love? How do people fall in love? And how should one know if it is really love or just pure attraction? One can ask a hundred more questions about love, the point is, everyone is vulnerable to the feelings of love. A lot of people spend their lives searching for it, craving for it. Some say it is the greatest virtue.
Love is a basic human emotion. Yes, basic, yet it’s mysterious. Thus, many believe that love moves in mysterious ways. Others say that love is something that science cannot explain. In fact, love as a concept has only fairly recently became the subject of scientific study.
So while poets can put many romantic thoughts and feelings into words, songwriters into songs and painters into canvasses, love is so unfathomable that science is needed to explain it. After all, psychologists have a lot to say about how and why people fall in love, sometimes at the wrong time and place, and often times driving a lot of people in the realm of craziness.
Different Theories of Love
Psychologists and researchers have proposed a number of different theories of love. Some of these are the following:
- Liking vs. Loving
As stated by American social psychologist Zick Rubin, romantic love is composed of three interrelated elements: attachment, caring, and intimacy. Attachment refers to the need to be taken care of, receive approval and physical contact with the other half of the relationship. Caring refers to giving value the other person’s needs and happiness as much as one’s own. Intimacy, on the other hand, refers to the exchanges of thoughts, desires, and feelings with the other person.
- Compassionate vs. Passionate Love
According to psychologist Elaine Hatfield and her colleagues, the two basic types of love are compassionate love and passionate love. Mutual respect, attachment, affection, and trust are the components of compassionate love. In addition, it usually develops out of feelings of mutual understanding and shared respect for one another. Passionate love, on the other hand, is characterized by mutual intense emotions and affection coupled with sexual attraction and anxiety. When these intense emotions are reciprocated, an individual feels ecstatic and contented. But when unreciprocated, love results to feelings of despair, despondence and hopelessness.
Hatfield believes that passionate love is ephemeral, lasting for only about 6 to 30 months. In addition, Hatfield suggests that passionate love develops because of three things: when cultural expectations encourage falling in love, when the person has the qualities of one’s preconceived notions of an ideal love, and when one experience intensified physiological arousal in the presence of the other person.
It is ideal to say that passionate love can lead to a far more enduring compassionate love. While most individuals want a relationship that is a combination of the stability of compassion and the intensity of passionate love, Hatfield insisted this is a rare case.
- The Color Wheel Model of Love
John Alan Lee, a Canadian psychologist, asserted the idea that there are six types of interpersonal love. Three are considered primary and the other three secondary. In his book “The Colors of Love,” published in 1973, Lee expounded on the six types of love and assigns colors to each. Basically, Lee compared the styles of love to the color wheel.
According to Lee, the three primary styles of love are the following: eros, ludos, and storge. Eros came from the Greek word “erotic”, which means a passionate physical and emotional love. Eros is symbolized by the color red. Ludus is a Latin word referring to “sport or play, a love that is played as a game.” It is symbolized by the color blue. Storge is a Greek word which means “friendship”. It is an affectionate love that gradually develops from friendship. The color yellow symbolizes “storge”.
Pragma, mania, and agape are the secondary styles of love according to Lee. Pragma is a Greek word which means “practical”. This refers to love that is driven by the head and not the heart. Green symbolizes “pragma”. Mania is a Greek word which means “frenzy”. This love is considered to be highly volatile to the point of obsession. The color violet symbolizes “mania”. Lastly, agape is a Greek word which means “divine or spiritual”. Agape is considered to be the purest love. It is symbolized by the color orange.
- Triangular Theory of Love
The triangular theory of love is proposed by Robert Sternberg, an American psychologist. According to him, the following are the components of love: intimacy, passion, and commitment. These components, when combined, results to different types of love. An example of this is the combination of intimacy and passion leads to passionate love. Compassionate love, on the other hand, is a result of intimacy and commitment. Another kind of love, which Sternberg believes is the strongest and most enduring yet the rarest, is the consummate love. This is intimacy, passion, and commitment all rolled into one.
So is Love Biological or Is It a Cultural Phenomenon?
Is love a human drive, or does it arises because of social pressures and expectations? Some believe that love could only be either of both. For example, psychologist and author Lawrence Casler, believes that love is brought about by social pressures, thus adhering to the idea that love is a cultural phenomenon. Anthropological research, however, suggests that love is a universal human emotion and is most likely stimulated by both biological drives and cultural influences. So while hormones and biology are important in love, the way to express and experience love is influenced by an individual and/or society’s conceptions of love.
Fall in Love and Get High!!!
During a romantic love, a lot of changes take place that both men and women experience. It seems inaccurate to say “falling in love” because when one experience love he or she feels high that puts him or her on cloud nine.
Falling in love is a powerful moment that an individual feels invigorated. Flushed cheeks, a pounding heart, and clammy hands are some of the outward signs of falling in love.
According to Helen Fisher of Rutgers University in New Jersey, there are three stages in falling in love. Each of the stages involves a different set of chemicals. Regardless of what stage of falling in love, these chemicals make a person “high” enough to be in cloud nine.
Stage 1: Lust
Lust is compelled by the sex hormones testosterone and estrogen. Testosterone plays a major role in the sex drive of both men and women. These hormones, as Helen Fisher describes “get you out looking for anything”.
Stage 2: Attraction
This is the truly love-struck stage. When an individual falls in love, he or she can think of nothing else but the other person he or she is in love with. Some might even lose their appetite and sleeps less, opting to spend hours at a time daydreaming about their new lover.
In the attraction stage, a group of neuro-transmitters called ‘monoamines’ play a significant role:
- Dopamine – Also activated by cocaine and nicotine.
- Norepinephrine – Also known as adrenalin. Makes an individual sweat and gets the hear pounding.
- Serotonin – This is one of love’s most important chemicals and one that may actually make an individual temporarily insane.
Stage 3: Attachment
If the relationship is going to last, it is important to reach the attachment stage. Attachment is a longer and lasting commitment. It is the bond that makes couples stay together. Important in this stage are the two hormones that are released by the nervous system, which are believed to play roles in social attachments:
- Oxytocin – This is released by the hypothalamus gland during child birth and also makes the breast discharge milk. It contributes to the strong bond between mother and child. Oxytocin is also released during orgasm be both men and women, contributing to the intimacy. The theory goes to say that the more sex a couple has, the deeper their bond becomes.
- Vasopressin – Another important chemical in the long-term commitment stage. It is considered as the monogamy chemical.
All These and More, so What Really is LOVE?
There are lots of definitions of love. Each person has his or her own accounts of love, depending on his or her own experiences. One thing is for sure, at least for me, love is never selfish. It is the power of giving freedom to the right of each human being to be happy in love, no matter how hard it takes.
Posted by Krista Gray in Miscellaneous on 16. Feb, 2017 | Comments Off on Choose the Right Kind of Music to Release Stress
Music is definitely a stress reliever. It helps that you listen to songs every now and then to help you feel better about yourself. You might be filed with problems and burdens, but they are suddenly gone the moment you start listening to your favorite songs. Music definitely helps people in many ways. This is why you need to take a moment to listen to your favorite songs the moment you feel like you are totally stressed out.
The key here though is to choose the song that soothes your feelings. Most people would refer to this as soft tunes and romantic songs. Some others would choose songs with great lyrics, but still the overall tune is soft and quiet. This makes them feel more relaxed. If you feel the same way about those songs, go ahead and listen to them.
It is important to note though that not all songs are the same. There are those that might make you feel even worse. Sad songs for instance, no matter how beautiful the melody is, won’t help. In contrary, there are upbeat songs that are perfect in making you feel better. Some others even rely on rocks songs and metal to make them forget their problems.
In short, there really is no standard when it comes to what type of song can help you get rid of stress. Ultimately, it is your choice to make. Whatever makes you forget about your burden, it is what works for you.
There are people who feel better not just by listening to songs, but by singing them or even playing instruments. These are effective outlets to release stress. If you feel bad about your life or what is going on around you, it helps that you keep playing the instruments that you know of. Even if you can’t play the instruments well, it is fine. The point is that along the way, you forget your problems. You only think of how you can finally get through your problems. You can also check out ESP Eclipse ii if you want to learn something new.
Don’t dwell on the pain
Listening to songs as a way of easing your burden is helpful. It does not mean though that you stay there forever. You can always feel the pain of your problems, but never dwell on them. You need to find a way to finally let go of whatever it is that bothers you.
Whether it is a confrontation or a diplomatic talk, the point is that you can get through this phase and move forward. It doesn’t help if you continue hurting yourself because of what happened in the past. You should finally let go of the emotions and be more optimistic of the future.
Besides, songs are there not just to make you feel happy when you are sad. There are songs that will just make you feel good about life in general. It doesn’t matter whether you have tons of problems or you just feel relaxed.
Posted by Krista Gray in Miscellaneous on 22. Aug, 2014 | Comments Off on What Does Your Dog’s Behavior Says
Are you a good pet owner? What does your dog’s behavior says about your petting style? It’s definitely easier to pet a dog when you know how to read its facial expressions and body language. That’s where you get cues about what it wants, what it appreciates, and what puts it in a bad mood. Interpreting how your canine buddy communicates will make your bond stronger. Therefore, understanding dog language is something you must aim for, right from the start.
Dogs Do Understand
Pet dogs behave almost like a human. They react to affection, they develop habits, and they have feelings to communicate. While you cannot interpret what’s the best vacuum for hardwood floors because floors don’t speak, your furry friend can actually communicate.
According to dog experts, canines actually have the ability to understand humans. An average pooch can comprehend about 165 words, sounds, and signals. Superior breeds like German Shepherds, Labradors, Golden Retrievers, and Doberman Pinschers among others can even understand more – about 250. The only thing you need is to learn your part – how you can translate the way your buddy communicates.
Yes, there are the normal signs that pet owners can take after. If your dog is eagerly at the beeline for the door, you know it is pretty delighted to see you; If it is staring intently at the dog treats jar, you know it is starving. But there are communication exchanges that could be special between you and your pet friend. Reading through them becomes easier as you spend time together and as you grow sensitive to the cues.
Read Your Dog
There is no need to pull out the crystal ball. You can well read your dog, by judging through its body language. Barking is another tool that dogs use to verbalize what they want or need.
You will easily know if your pet appreciates the dog treats you bought if you pay close attention to how it reacts when you do things together. Learn what is the best dog food for pitbulls. Click here.
Remember that dogs’ feelings, like humans’, are not always positive. There are also times when insecurity, jealousy, fear, and other negative feelings creep in. You must be sensitive towards those as well.
Posted by Krista Gray in Miscellaneous on 19. Aug, 2014 | Comments Off on The Psychology behind Color Green
Green is said to be neither warm nor cool for it is a combination of yellow, which is warm, and of blue, which is cool. This balance makes it very calming to the senses. It occupies greater space in the spectrum that is seen by the eyes of a human than any other colors. It is not a popular color as it is only next to the color blue, but it is considered a pervasive hue in the natural world. This is why green is typically used as a backdrop in interior designing since the eye is used to seeing it anywhere. The natural surroundings in green, from lime to forest, are seen as refreshing and tranquil.
The color green is also associated with ecology. However, it is also considered a color of illness, green cards, negative emotion, or a “green mind”. This color has physiological effects. It is soothing, mentally and physically relaxing; it offers a sense of harmony and renewal and helps improve depression and anxiety. In business, green is used for logos to bring good luck, peace and calmness, and money. Recovery rooms use a soft shade of green paint as this is said to help patients heal faster. Theaters have green rooms where performers can stay to relax before the actual performance.
We associate green in so many positive things, like greener pastures, green thumb, going green, and many others. Though it is also associated with something negative, there are more positive things rather than negative ones. While we do not exactly know how our brain associates this color with these things, what is factual is that green is a standard color for significant events, such as green in traffic light or green flag in racing.
There are scientific evidences that state that our eyes are sensitive to green light, which affects production of hormone and circulation of brain transmitters affecting our mood. In your home, it helps to have a space for greens. Take advantage of your outdoor space by building even just a small lawn that whenever you look outside, you will feel relaxed. A lawn is easy to maintain using high quality mowers. Check out Pure Mowers to know the best lawn mower for your particular need.
Posted by Krista Gray in Miscellaneous, Psychology on 07. May, 2014 | Comments Off on How To Help A Friend In Need
At some point in our lives, we will encounter friends running to us because of personal crisis. Whether their problem is big or small, what they need is someone to turn to. Yet oftentimes being the shoulder to cry on can be challenging. I have learned so many things about this based on my own experiences, though. Let these tips help you as well.
- Reach out, sit and talk. Often, we tend to lean on ignoring someone else’s problem as we do ignore our own because we don’t want to get hooked on the stress that accompanies it. However, ignoring does nothing but let the problem resurface over and over again until it gets worse. So whenever you see a friend in crisis who needs your help, don’t ignore him or her. Whatever you do, reach out to them, sit at an unfinished coffee table or go to a restaurant, and let them talk about their issues. These would render better results than when you just ignore them.
- Be passive. Rather than being active and constantly giving an advice, you must know that your friend would rather have you listen to him or her and just be there as an emotional support. This is because chances are they have already gathered enough advice from other people and giving them more would not help but confuse them in the end.
- Give them hope. A friend in crisis most often focuses on the negative. You as a listener must then be the one to give them hope about their situation. Rather than constantly agreeing with them, tell them words of encouragement like how incredible it is that they are able to see themselves well because a lot of people are having a difficult time with that.
- Be with them in spirit if you can’t do so physically. Being a supportive friend does not always mean you have to sit with your friend at an unfinished coffee table and discuss his or her issues. Another way to show that you care about them is by sending them gifts with notes saying that you are thinking about them or that you are just a phone call away. Doing any of these would give them so much consolation despite the current emotions that they are facing.
Posted by Krista Gray in Miscellaneous on 25. Mar, 2014 | Comments Off on 4 Ways to Know When It Is Time to Break Up
Breaking up is a difficult thing to do. If you have invested your emotion into a relationship, it is difficult to just let it go. This is true especially for those who have been in the relationship for quite some time. However, there instances in which it is best to just give it up. How would you know when it is high time to let go?
- See if you are just in this relationship because you don’t want to hurt your partner. If this is your main reason for still going on with the relationship, then it won’t serve you well. This will just make you a weaker person. The relationship must help you grow and be able to confront your feelings. If it does nothing but to stop you from being honest, then it is the opposite of what you must get out of a relationship.
- Determine how you feel especially when you are outside with your partner. If you start to feel embarrassed, then this is not working anymore. Your relationship must be something that you are proud of. If you feel this way, there is something wrong. You can’t stay that way for a long time. Better yet, just put an end to everything.
- Find out if you stay in the relationship because you don’t want to feel alone and start all over again. Being in a relationship is not a simple test of endurance. It is not about who lasts the longest. It is more of what you have learned out of being there. If you are tired to start over and that’s your main reason for holding on, then there is no point at all.
- Check your similarities and differences. Yes, opposites attract, but it can’t stay that way forever. If you differ in many things especially in major decisions, it might be high time to put a stop to it.
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